Al G Smith

QUESTION:
Does being totally cruel help?
Get you respect? Most of the youngish guys in my town are nuts, some have been cruel to animals and everything and yet they’ve got the most pals and just about everyone respects them.

Some of them openly admit to respecting that guy (motes guy) who shot a police officer and yet it doesn’t seems to bother anybody.

And no offence but the women respect them like **** (and yes, even the women who appear kind)

Is it like this where you live?

ANSWER:
I think you know the answer to this.

Cruelty is never good, never to be ‘respected’, and never acceptable — ever.

If anyone seems to respect someone who is known to be ‘cruel’ it is not truly respect — unless by someone who is too lacking in intellect and.or maturity to be able to have any proper moral values and standards.

If a girl seems to ‘have the hots’ for a guy who is brutal and cruel — (sometimes the idea that girls like ‘bad boys’) it is because they lack maturity and see a ‘false glamour;’ in it, They will later learn, when beaten or abused, or have their heart broken and their emotions torn, that such guys are worthless. Sometimes they foolishly believe that ‘they can tame him’ or ”change him’ — this is usually a false hope.

A really nice girl will appreciate the better qualities of the decent man, and will find the cruel guy a ‘turn-off’ and pitiful.

Moat was simply a brutal bully who had psychological issues, exacerbated by steroid use, for which he did not get the help he needed (largely through his own failure to take the opportunities offered). His case got too much media attention and his actions do not deserve admiration or respect, only pity at best. I am sorry for his children who will eventually have to try an live with the reality of their rathers ignominious existence and death. His brutality was such that his (far too young) ex-girlfriend was so scared of him she lied to try and keep him away from her — and sadly that partly led to the events that unfolded. I feel sorry for her too, and the media claptrap that will have made her life a misery.

You may need to make a plan to get away from the area you live in that seems to have these types that you are evidently not one of. Look at what this ambition will require.

You should also look at how you can develop social contacts with people and groups that do not hold cruelty and bad-behaviou in any ‘esteem. This is a period of social malaise that the country is sadly suffering and it takes a braver person to defy the temptation to join the wasters and the bullies.

Remember it is NOT about trying to get respect from others. You have to have respect for yourself. A man who can honestly say he repects himself and knows he has good and caring heart is a man who WILL become respected by DECENT people.

Being ‘respected’ by trash is no respect at all, and if you gain ’street-respect’ through cruelty — you still have to live with yourself for the rest of your life. If you ‘cut-off’ your own emotions (which will be necessary) in order to ‘live with yourelf’ — you are on the way to becoming just another maladjusted, socially-worthless delinquent..